I tend to stand as a contradiction to all of my traditional friends, as I am the walking embodiment of Uranus energy being beat up by Neptune transits and foggy reasoning. My chart co ruler is Uranus by modern methods. Uranus is conjunct Pluto (as most of my generation) for that extra punch. Relationships tend to last for me one cycle of Uranus. I have had 3 serious relationships when the men each had turned 40… I think on some wall in a bathroom stall in Omaha (Pluto conj, remember) my number must be painted along with “For a good time during your midlife (Uranus) crisis, and no responsibility… be the artist you always pretended to be, who needs work… call Theresa at……..
I am learning, really. First marriage when Uranus and Saturn conjunct. Children with their Uranus (and Neptune) on my Asc and Merc conj Mars…. all deposited by Saturn. Another marriage when Uranus and Saturn squared. And now… We have had years of the opposition. And so far so good, no marriage happened
The first round of Uranus and Saturn opposing set up the stage for many long term relationships and marriages to be tested. Traditional beliefs vs unconventional freedoms. No wonder marriage was on the chopping block. Off hand I can think of a half dozen explosions (personally, not just the Tiger Woods and the Bullock/James blow ups). Some where very close to home and quite painful, and that was not even being a participant. My heart goes out to the ones that Uranus got a hold of….behaving in a socially unacceptable manner, but it came down to breath free or suffocate. Then the flip side, the blow from no where…. What happened, everything seemed fine, and the dizzying disorientation that may never orient… because there was no reason or logic.
Not being involved with anyone, but some sideline dating was probably the best thing that could have happened to me (not that you would know it from all the “I can’t find a guy” whining I did and do. I did have time to interact with my children at a time that Uranus vs Saturn visited my abode. There were trips to therapists, medications, interventions…. what you would expect from kids with Uranus square the Moon in their natals…. but here at the fourth round… an eerie peacefulness. As I came to accept the strange ways of my offspring and they finally understand, I am never going to be the archetype Mother they thought I had to be… a truce. The only deal is “you need to grow up safe and we need to prepare you for adulthood”. The result we should see when the next time the two grumpy giant planets oppose (in a few months after Saturn goes direct again) The fifth pass should be like the celestial final exam. The outer planets, when dealing with Retrogrades, go back and forth 5 times… it takes years and it is grinding excruciatingly slow, especially with hits to the natal. During this one…. on a direct opposition, Obama took the Presidency that day…. that might help you wrap around your head the power struggles we all have went through.
I am glad that I did not actually start a relationship during this time. I can’t imagine the first meeting chart to be too pretty. With the dating, I met some interest people. A pilot, who at this point I am not sure what he did with his 20 year marriage, or his other girlfriends…. but I think I was involved with him because I find Narcissistic personalities adorable (go figure) and this time I didn’t make a mistake…. I let him go, knowing he was bad for me. ( a first!) and then the floodgate opened up and the test became like a drill. I can knock them out of the running on one date now! Before it was over look this, we can change that…. but now it is. Wow, we spent an entire evening together and I know all about how life has been unfair and amazing you know nothing new about me…. NEXT… and it goes on and on…. from the cross dressing truck driver (really I could deal with that, but I was never a subject in our conversations, except to ask if he could raid my closet) to an overgrown Iron Maiden ex-groupie that likes body hair on women….. OMG, could that have waited a few dates in? And now with the RX Saturn, last time to apologize. I have had maybe’s from the past come up and say sorry…. but still somehow try to hold me responsible for their mistakes. LOL and I am not worried about him/them reading this, cause none of them cared enough to know what I think. Score one for me, I have avoided another round of being 12th house invisible and only a support system for someone else. This was my own personal demon, and I have broken away from the conventional I have known.
One of the Uranus casualties and I were out shopping together last night. I mentioned the opposition again (we have talked about it before) and she said…. yeah, 25 years destroyed, a new relationship destroyed (happened this round) and I have nothing to show for it. And in someways that is true, looking for a goldmine that isn’t there… but in otherways she has changed the course of lives and no one will ever be the same.
On round four, I have found a few of us interested in May/December type relationships. Don’t know exactly what that means or the why it is happening. Maybe, and this is what has happened with me, as I confronted my old beliefs and demons, I can now see what is really important. Maybe the exuberance of youth is appealing? I had a friend that now in retrospect, I can see “adored” me, and I dismissed him over age and the need for structure and providence that an older family man would (haaa in my case) provide. I never considered that older did not mean more mature. Uranus VS Saturn. I listened and watched the link below and thought of this friend and those heavy sorrow laden fat teardrops started falling. You know, the honest ones. That friend may be gone… I am sure he tired of my ignoring him… after all it was Saturn opposed Uranus for him too…. but he taught me an important Uranus lesson. Listen with your heart and live true to yourself.